When girls become teenagers their parents believe that they capable of doing household chores, especially work inside of the house, such as cleaning and cooking.
Cambodian wives of all ages tend to do more household chores than their male partners, no matter how much they work outside of the house or how much money they earn. These chores become a significant part of their daily lives.
When I live with my brother, I am crystal clear about how it feels when I’m the only one who have to do the duties. When I wake up I have to clean dishes, clean the house, cook some food and washing clothes. To be honest, if my brother do some of the work, I would appreciate him, but he won’t. Whenever I ask him to help, he always call and complain to mom and mom told me “I should not be lazy because am a girl.” What’s wrong with the girl, who wants help when she’s about to die from chores!?
My girls in the village they want to become a boy. Not physically, but mentally. One of the girl said “If I were a boy, I don’t have to cook because I don’t like being around the fire and I don’t want to burn my house.” Another girl continued “My parents is so strict on me, but not my brother.” If they would ask their parents or their elders, the only answer they will receive is “because you are a girl” without any further explanation.
The true opinion is, they love of being a girl, they love of being themselves, but they don’t like of being a girl of what they told to be. They all want to be free! They all want to be themselves.
Once women are married, their work increases and more pressure is put upon them from their families.
On an average day in 2015, 85% of wives spent time doing things like housework, cooking, lawn care or financial management, while the husband are only working outside of the house.
Husband must share the household work because it will make their marriage last. Dailymail claimed “Couple are happier when husband pull their weight.” Which mean, if the husband help to pull some pressure of chores from wives, the couple are live happier.
These suggestions are great for gender equity, but we know wives do more chores than husband. This is not because she likes doing it, it’s because the studies show they have a lower tolerance for relationship conflict and this maybe the reason why.
Author: Chimean Hav
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